Managing Your Move to or in Austin: Expectations vs. Reality--Part 102/18/2018Moving is the grown-up equal of high school—everybody is really excited about the thought, but it is only the people with sensible expectations who end up having a good time. Yes, it's a new house, a new beginning, and the opportunity of a awesome new life--but once that last empty moving van heads down the road and you are standing there in the middle of your boxes, you have still got to do the actual work. Managing your move with realistic expectations is essential to beginning that new life on the right foot--and that means not only accepting the fact that a new house won't magically suck up the thirty pounds you have good intentions to lose, but that moving is emotionally difficult even in the best circumstances and you and your family should allocate the time and space to accept that. One of the crazy things about a local move--new home, neighborhoods, schools--is that can be more difficult on the children than a long-distance relocation. A new house in another state eliminates the constant requests to go hang with their friends in the old neighborhood, and it could be easier to embrace a new life and new friends when your old ones are in a different time zone. But back to the main point. There are three Ps involved with managing your move to or in Austin--Purge, Pack, and Pay. What you do not purge must be packed, and the more you pack, the more you will pay. Expectation—I will go through old stuff and only save what I love. Reality--you love lots more than you believe you do. Whether you handle your own packing or employ a professional moving company, you have got to decide what is worth the time and money to pack and move. Purge Purging is one of those weird expressions you don't hear very often, at least in a affirmative way. But really, letting go of the old baggage is one of the wisest ways so that you can empower your new residence to grant your expectations of wonderful. There are all kinds of directions and suggestions to help you figure out the best approaches to get rid of your old stuff, from pragmatic--"if you haven't used/worn it in a year get rid of it"; to a tad less traditional--"toss all your negative energy out with the old towels". At its least complicated level, purging is basically picking through all the cabinets, closets and drawers and forming three piles: keep, throw away, donate. Or you may have four piles if you have got a lot of next-to-new items that you do not need anymore, and consign those items. A troublesome thing about purging is maintaining the neutrality it requires to be ruthless about tossing items. If you kept all those pre-school paintings, how can you throw them away and be a good parent? Here's one suggestion—have a friend help you pick through items and talk you through why you're holding onto items that are really better to be gotten rid of. Having someone ask you out loud why you want to hang on to the 1980s jelly shoes does put things in perspective and you will have an easier time growing the toss pile if you have got someone to support your decisions. If your significant other is the one with the accumulator tendencies, here is a suggestion for helping a reluctant partner part with their treasures. Think small, and commence with the kitchen junk drawers, try to limit handling of old matchbooks and old crayons to one time only and steadily make your way to more important items, like collections (for example, select two or three porcelain bunnies and donate or consign the rest). Catch us next time as we go over managing your move topics: Pack and Pay, in Part 2 of this blog series.